What is Feminism? Why are some people giving feminism a bad name? The answer is simple: Ignorance. Feminism is not that rude woman or girl you know. Feminism is not hating men, feminism is not synonymous to lesbianism, a woman’s sexual preference doesn’t make her a feminist. Feminism is not a war or an attack on men. Any woman who hates men is a misandrist and not a feminist. Feminism and Misandry are not the same.
Your wife disrespecting you is not feminism. There are men who are feminits; their balls are still intact.
Feminism in a nutshell is about equity and fairness in the treatment of men and women. It’s a movement that advocates for the socio-political and economic equality of the sexes.
Read up on feminism before you join the bandwagon of ignorant Nigerian men who see feminism as a threat to their masculinity and women who have grown to love their chains. Feminism is not power tussle in the family. Feminism is simply advocating for equal rights for the sexes, do you know what that means, it means give me a seat at the table, let women enjoy the same rights and privileges (because like it or not male privilege exist) such as right to work, right to vote, right to equal pay in the work place, right to their reproductive organs, right to decide their destiny, like in Saudi Arabia, right to drive just as men drive. Malala Yousafsazi, a brave woman, took a bullet for promoting female education in Pakistan. A lot has been achieved but there’s still a long way to go. In mixed secondary schools in some parts of Nigeria today a girl is suspended for getting pregnant but the boy responsible for it continues school without punishment. This is injustice. The reason change is crawling in Nigeria is because we don’t have a reading culture. No wonder Soyinka said if you want to hide something from a Nigerian, put it in a book. Read and learn. Today men want women who are educated and working as wives, well thank feminism for that, otherwise your wives will all be farmers or at best petty traders. Today women are bread winners in some families; our education no longer ends in the kitchen. Stop tagging feminism with negative connotations when you don’t even know the genesis of the movement.
Know that negative write ups will not stop feminism because even those who claim not to be feminists are enjoying the dividends of feminism. Now women can own properties, your husband dies and you naturally inherit the property you both worked hard to acquire, well ask questions and find out how it was before when uncles took over from where your husband stopped. You can chose who to marry now as a woman, well find out how it was before when your father had the final say. Remember days when the minute you’re born as a woman you’re betrothed to a man you don’t know if you would ever love just because his father is your dad’s friend. They decide our fate over cheap bottles of alcohol, some women were given away as payment for debts. Days when if your husband died you would drink water from his corpse to prove your innocence, evil cultural practices that enforce the victimisation of women. We should all be feminists. You don’t have to identify as a feminist if you don’t wish to as a woman but whatever privilege you’re enjoying today as a woman know that the so called feminists fought for it and the fight is far from over.
We should reclaim this word “Feminism”